Dating for relationship

26-May-2016 07:51

Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?

Or maybe I’m just particularly unlucky when it comes to men.When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.And if things go well, dating couples move in with each other, on average, after 30 weeks or 60 dates.So, from now on I’m sticking to my guns – if you won’t call it after eight weeks, then I’m out of there.

Or maybe I’m just particularly unlucky when it comes to men.

When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.

I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.

And if things go well, dating couples move in with each other, on average, after 30 weeks or 60 dates.

So, from now on I’m sticking to my guns – if you won’t call it after eight weeks, then I’m out of there.

I’m not judging – I can see how easy it is to get into that situation.